Every person you meet, every person you date there will be some intimacy, there will be an attraction that will be had. Whether that be in a family situation or in a relationship we will have some sort of intimacy. We will talk to our family about the things that no one else knows, we … Continue reading Intimacy differences →

We have just celebrated fathers day and it is special to celebrate this day as being a daughter. We have a different relationship to most people, your father is the one who you look up to, the one who we take for an example, the one who helps us to see what our future husband … Continue reading Daddy and Daughter →

Daniel Singarajah, my husband, my soulmate, my best friend. I am so grateful and blessed to have you as my husband and someone that I am able to live with for the rest of my life. I am so blessed that I am able to call you mine, that we are able to have a … Continue reading Happy 30th my love →

Today is the day we celebrate my husbands birthday, so this blog is how I feel about Him and how much I love Him. 30 years ago on this day Daniel was born to second time parents and changed their lives and everyone around him. They didn't know how much joy he would bring to … Continue reading To my Husband →

In two days time is my husbands 30th birthday! My husband, can you believe it? Darling this blog is for you. I don't know how to tell you this but you are amazing. You have helped me so much in the last year, you have been such a wonderful husband, you have been such a … Continue reading My Hubby →

In life it is hard to be clear about what you want in life, how to say what you want and how to do the things that you want. It is hard to be clear with people around us especially in our relationship and when it may upset other people. Sometimes it is not easy … Continue reading Be Clear →

Some people get married and some people stay single but the important thing us that every life is a gift from God. Every relationship, every person, every child, every adult has been given a life that has been given by God and we should be blessed with the life that we are able to live. … Continue reading God’s gift of marriage →

In life we get tired, we get exhausted, we get done with different things that happen in life and it can be hard. There are a lot of things in life that 'kills' us, we have work to do, we have jobs to attend, we have family to look after, we have children to care … Continue reading Life Killers →

How often do you tease your family? your partner? your friends? your children? We all love to tease other people and to make them laugh. It is so good to tease each other but there is a line that should not be crossed whether at home in private or out. We need to be careful … Continue reading Limited Teasing →

Can you imagine if we were all the same? Life would be so boring, we would all have the same hair, the same coloured hair, the same personalities, the same hobbies, the same ideas, the same development, the same physical body, we would live in a very boring world with very boring people because we … Continue reading We are different →

A relationship is said to be about giving half and accepting half but newsflash sadly or not so sadly it is not! Every relationship should be 70% to 30%. We should give 100% in our relationship but in reality with life going on we will only give some of that and we should give 70% … Continue reading 70-30 →

It is so sad that this society that we live in is full of so many split families. It is so sad that so many families don't have their fathers around, it is so sad that so many families don't have their mothers around, it is so sad that so many people are split from … Continue reading Split Families →

I love my husband, I really do but does my actions always show it? I am ashamed to say this but I think not! Sometimes I don't listen to him, I annoy him, I distrust him, I aggravate him, I stress him out, I don't clean up after myself, I am tired, I am grumpy, … Continue reading Respecting my husband →

I do not need to go into the genetically side of things as this is obvious but men are different from women, men learn differently, they think differently, they act differently, they have different emotions, they speak differently, they have different physical things, their body is built differently. Men and women are different and we … Continue reading Mens biggest temptation →

We all know that laughter is the best medicine! We know that laughter can help with stress, it can help with anxiety, it can help with hurt, it can help in so many ways and we should not take it for guarantee. It is something that has been given to us and we can use … Continue reading Laughter through life →

There are so many temptations in life that it is hard to stay faithful to anyone and anything, we want to have a better job so we go and look for a better one, we want to have a better marriage so we go and look for someone else, we want to have better friends … Continue reading Stay faithful →

No matter how we think about it every women needs a man in their lives. Every daughter needs their father in their life, every lady needs someone that they can turn to who is not a female. When we are children we need our dads there to protect us and to look after us, as … Continue reading Women need a man →

How do you plan a wedding when things do not go to plane? How do you plan a wedding when things get cancelled? What do you do when all venues get cancelled and closed? How do you cope when things get tough? When we were planning our wedding little did we know that the whole … Continue reading Our wedding not going to plan →

One year ago today at 11:46pm weighing in at 6lb 2oz our beautiful niece was born and it was one of the best days of my life. I had always wanted to be an aunty and the day had now come and it came. What an amazing time it was and what a wonderful toddler … Continue reading Our Princess Niece →

We all share the same spaces, the bus, the train, the station, the living room, on social media, reading this blog, sitting on the sofa, eating breakfast, getting the bins in, reading the paper, getting some milk, heading to the shops. Wherever we are in the world we all seem to have the same routine … Continue reading You have a choice →

Tomorrow is Good Friday, a day of the year which is sombre and painful so why do we call it 'good?' It is a day of betray, of pain, of death, of sin, of suffering, of conviction, of flogging, of abuse, of soldiers, of mocking, of Jesus. Every year we have the same day and … Continue reading Good Friday →

Having your relationship and marriage private and having some privacy are totally different things. It is important to have privacy in your marriage, to keep things to yourself, to keep things between you and your partner but to keep it private is another thing. Talking about your relationship details and talking about your relationship are … Continue reading Private and Privacy →

One more episode, just a bit of chocolate, just a drink, another coffee, another pillow won't hurt, just in case, that box of cereal, sleep in a bit more, just another card, one more purchase, just one night, just a coffee break, just one visit, there are so many temptations in life, so many things … Continue reading Don’t be tempted →

Two years ago yesterday we had planned to have our wedding day with family and friends around to watch us get married. I now know that this would not happen but this is how I felt on my wedding day 3 month, 2 days and 2 hours later. I woke up not knowing what the … Continue reading Wedding anniversary →

Before I was married I was asked so many times whether or not I would include obey in my vows and of course it was a no brainier for me. Of course I would love, cherish and obey my husband! I want people to know that I will always love, cherish and obey my husband … Continue reading Cherish, Love and Obey →

Everybody in their lives need love, whether that is from our parents, from our guardians or from our spouse, we all need love. Love is a great and beautiful thing but it can be imperfect and it can be hard. We do so many things for our loved ones but we can forget the little … Continue reading What is Love →

In three days time we will be celebrating mothers day and I am so proud to have two mums to my name. I have an awesome mother and an incredible mother-in-law and I am so blessed to have both of them in my life. I am so grateful and bless to have both these wonderful … Continue reading To our Mums →

'please send rain,' 'please let me have a parking space,' 'please make this traffic move,' 'please make sure the trains are running.' We are all guilty of doing a quick, short, snappy prayer but do we actually mean it? Do you know who you are praying to? DO you realise that there is a God … Continue reading Keep praying →

We all think that as we start a new year it is important for us to have new year resolutions however it is important all through life to be able to change and have the chance to change because life will change and we need to be ready to change with it. We all have … Continue reading Hopes to change? →

Have you ever walked out of you house when you have been annoyed? There are many times when you want to give up with things, you want to just walk out and leave things as they are, you want to move on, you think things are better with someone else or somewhere else. You think … Continue reading Don’t give up →

We all want to be loved, we all want to have a partner, we all want to have a life, we all want to to feel loved, we all want to do things that we are not able to do, we all want to be able to have our cake and eat it. However, we … Continue reading You can’t have both →

Our Loving Heavenly Father, What a mess we are in currently, what a world we live in, what leaders we have, what war is going on. Lord we pray for the people of this world who are going through wars and who are going through battles. Most of all Lord we pray for the people … Continue reading Prayer for Ukraine →

In life we all experience change, from being at home to starting school, to starting big school, to going to college, to moving out to go to university, to having a new job, to a new relationship, to getting married, to a new baby being born, to someone close passing away, to changing jobs. In … Continue reading Times are changing →

This last week we have watched on the TV, read in the newspapers and looked on social media as Russia has invaded Ukraine, Putin has put his army into a country that is not his, Putin has sent missiles over into Ukraine, people have been killed, children have had to be evacuated, families have been … Continue reading I stand with you →

There are times in our life when we feel that we are slaves to something. We have all asked the question, 'what did your last slave die off?' It is a question that is asked throughout life to almost everyone. This may be our work, our children, social media, house chores, our family. We all … Continue reading You are not a slave →

6:30am 10 years ago to the day the world lost someone who was amazing, the world lost someone who bought a smile to everyone, the world lost a gentle-man, the world lost a father and a grandfather, the world lost a wonderful light, the world lost a wonderful man. I find myself so emotional at … Continue reading Its been a decade →

Do you feel that sometimes you are not loved? Do you feel that you are ignored? Do you love easily? Do you wear your heart on your sleeve? Do you feel love deeply? Do you love just a little bit? Showing love can be a natural thing or may come to you hard. It is … Continue reading You are loved →

No matter what we go through in life real love will last, not because it is easy but because we work for it. The more you love someone the more we have to work harder for it. We all feel the need to love, we all feel the need to be loved, it is not … Continue reading Love lasts →

In four days time we celebrate Valentines Day, the day of love, love is in the air. This is just a classic comment that is flown around all the time but do you truly feel this and can you see why people say this? Everyone is trying to do something special for the person that … Continue reading ‘Love is in the air’ →

Some people fall in love quickly and other people fall fast. When I first met my husband I knew I wanted to marry him and I even said to my brother that one day he will be my husband! Guess what 5 years later we were married! I know it took him a bit longer … Continue reading Our slow love →

Do you really know who you are? If you looked really deep into your heart do you really know who you are? Do you know who you are behind all the make-up and deep into your body? Knowing who we are and finding our identity is hard, it is something that we all struggle with … Continue reading Behind the mask →

I have never been one for being confident, I have never been one to talk to strangers, to feel good about myself but I suppose that is part of life and that is who we are. Some people are confident and others are not and that is okay, we are all different people. For some … Continue reading Are you confident? →

Do you think we women can find things all the time? I feel that we are able to, whether they are our things or not. In our family my husband and I have had so many conversations like this: Hubby:  “Do you know where ... is?” Me: “Yes just in the cupboard” Hubby: “I've looked … Continue reading ‘I moved one thing’ →

Do you like being on your own? Do you struggle to be with other people? At some point in our life we struggle with being around people or we struggle with people no matter what mood we are in, no matter who we are with or no matter what the day of the week is. … Continue reading Struggling with people →

Have you ever heard someone say, 'everything is in Gods timing'? However, sometimes it is hard to believe in this quote and believe that God is in control of all of our days. He is in control of our movements, the hair on our head, the places we go, the jobs we have, the children … Continue reading ‘In God’s timing’ →

When I got married I didn't know what it would be like and how we would form together as a married couple but it is going well. Marriage is a really beautiful thing and something that I am blessed by. I am so thankful for the man that I have married, for the way he … Continue reading Marriage eyes →

We are well into 2022 now and all the 'new year, new me' slogans have gone down and some new year resolutions have gone out the window. There are so many things in this world that tie us down, there are so many things that we have to do and it can be hard to … Continue reading Break away →

It is another year and another time to have another adventure. It is another time to head on the road, to climb the mountains before us, to get up the steep hill, to have things thrown at us that we don't expect. Another new year to try and get through with all the things that … Continue reading Another Year →

So today is my 302nd blog and when I first started blogging I didn't think I would get to 10 let alone 302! I didn't realise how relaxing it would be to write blogs and to get so many of my thoughts and feelings on paper. When I first started writing blogs I didn't realise … Continue reading 302 →

It is another year and another year to set our resolutions, time to be with family, time to spend with friends, time to do things that we have not been able to do. It is time to start afresh, another year has gone past and we can put that behind us and start something new … Continue reading New beginnings →

If someone told you, you had one more day to live what would you? Who would you go and visit? What would be the number one thing you would have to do? What activity would you do? Who would you spend your time with? What would your last meal and dessert be? There are so … Continue reading The last day (Almost) →

As the saying goes, 'another year bites the dust!' Another year has flown by, another year has had its ups and downs, another year has gone, another year is coming and another year to see what life holds. I have to say I have really enjoyed this last year as a married couple-our first full … Continue reading Its all over →

Oh its that time again, its that time when the children get excited, when the parents are stressed, when the turkey needs to come out of the oven, when vegetables need to be done, the presents need to be wrapped, it seems like there is not enough hours in this day to get everything done! … Continue reading Christmas Eve Eve →

We all love spending time together with our family and friends and it gives us a lot of joy and makes us cheerful. This is a good time to be cheerful, to be kind, to be forgiving, to be part of a family. It is the most wonderful time of the year and to be … Continue reading Christmas Cheer →

Don't you find this time of the year magic? There are so many reason why Christmas is so magic, I don't mean weirdly but beautiful. Some of you may have snow over Christmas and I find that really magical and special, not many people get to enjoy a 'white' Christmas. Christmas seems to be magic … Continue reading Magic of Christmas →

Are you grateful for those people around you during this festive season? Would you rather be on your own or with people that you love and who love you? Do you look forward to this season or do you find it hard and lonely? Many people across the world feel lonely at this time of … Continue reading Its Lonely →

I know some people that find this time of year so enjoyable and they love the hustle and bustle. However, I know other people who are the total opposite and hate this time of year, they get stressed and they cannot stand everything that they need to do. How do you feel about this time … Continue reading Christmas Stress →

It is winter and we are all experiencing the dark mornings, the not wanting to get up in the morning, leaving for work in the dark, coming home in the dark and it is miserable and it can be hard work trying to find motivation. It is hard to be happy and feel good when … Continue reading Dark times →

There are many things in life that can bring us true joy, a new baby, a new car, a new possession, an anniversary, a party, getting together with family and so much more but do they really bring us true joy? When was the last time you felt true joy in deep down in your … Continue reading True Joy →

It is easy during this time of year when it is hard to be happy, we wake up when it is dark, we get home when it is dark, it is cold almost all the time, we have to put so many layers on, it is hard to get out of bed and we are … Continue reading Try and be happy →

Today is thanksgiving and I would like to wish all my American friends and followers a very Happy Thanksgiving. I wish we did it here in the UK but I know that it would not make sense. I love how there is one day a year where we think about being thankful for what we … Continue reading Happy Thanksgiving →

Christmas is coming quick and I can't believe that it is just one month and two days away! Can you believe that this time is almost upon us? We are now on the home stretch of Christmas coming and we can really begin to get started on all the preparations. You can almost feel the … Continue reading One Month →

Have you ever been lost? Do you want to be found? There are many times in my life when I have just wanted to hide and don't want to be found. I almost want to play a permanent hide and seek but without the seek bit. Through life I have picked up on other peoples … Continue reading He found me →

There are times when you just want to give up and want to pack it in. There are times in our life when we don't find that things are easy, when we find it hard to socialise, when we find it hard to talk about how we are feeling, when we find it hard to … Continue reading Just keep going →

Throughout life we have moments that we want to remember forever, we have moments that we will never forget, we have moments that we want to treasure. We try and remember and photograph as much as we can but sometimes a photo is just not enough. We may even forget to take a camera with … Continue reading Make memories →

Do you find that sometimes you just need a hug from a certain person? Hugs are something that all people need, it is something that is important, it is something that needs to be done, it is something that should be nice, it is something that is beautiful, it is something that has good side … Continue reading Just give me a hug →

There is often times in life when we are pressured to try and give 100% in life, tests in schools, university degrees, work placements. However, sometimes it is hard work to keep on going when we have loads of pressure on us. We cannot live at 100% all our lives and our energy levels certainly … Continue reading Give it 100% →

Don't you look back at your life and think how proud you are of the journey that you have come on? When I first started blogging I didn't know where this journey would take me and what life would look like in the future and it is amazing the journey that I have been on. … Continue reading How things have changed →

There are so many children that are hurt, so many children that are not with their parents, so many children that are sick, so many children who are careers, so many children who are not happy, so many children who are abused, so many children do not go to school, so many children do not … Continue reading I ache for the children →

I often find carrying on can be hard and the older I get the more responsibilities I have and it is hard. Life can be pretty great but we often focus on the hardships and the things that take our time rather than the rainbow in the sky. It can be so easy to focus … Continue reading With Help I carry on →

We all know that gossip can destroy our and other peoples life but we keep on doing it and we keep on getting pained by it. We have all heard of different cancers, breast, prostrate, lung, brain but have you thought that when we gossip it is like cancer and it can spread to places … Continue reading Gossip cancer →

As you all know I have now been married for about 18 months and I didn't realise that so much would happen and that I didn't know so much about married life. Don't get me wrong married life is amazing and I love my husband but there are so many things that I didn't know … Continue reading Marriage thoughts →

Are you bored of waiting? Are you too impatient? There are times when we are fed up of waiting, there are times when we can no longer wait, there are times when we are not able to wait, there are times when we get frustrated in waiting. Waiting and having patience can be hard. There … Continue reading Try Patience →

Over the last few years I have had to deal with depression, anxiety, EUPD and PSTD and it has been hard, it has been hard to be on medication and not to really understand what my head is going through, it has been hard to look at other people and realise that there is something … Continue reading Me and my Mental Health Part 2 →

It is that time of year when we begin to talk about our mental health, today is mental health awareness day and it seems like everyone either acknowledges it or they are aware of it. Some people do a bit of both but to be honest today is just not the only day that this … Continue reading Me and my mental health →

There are so many things in life that take our time and we really don't have enough hours in the day. We have family, we have children to deal with, we have work to go to, we have hobbies, we want to spend more time outside. Thinking about it we have so much to do … Continue reading Work-life balance →

Many of you know that I went to Colombia in both 2006 and 2015. It was such a wonderful time but I can't believe that it was six years ago! How time does go quickly! I can't believe that I am now married and I am starting my own life. I can't believe how fast … Continue reading All the things I didn’t know →

There are times in life when we don't seem to have a voice. We want to curl up when we have to do a public presentation, we want to hide in our locker when we see our crush go past, we stutter when we have an interview, we get the nervous laughs when we have … Continue reading Find your voice →

  Do you feel that you are able to make a difference? Did you know if we all did one small good thing each day then a lot of good things would happen in this world and life would be so much better and so much happier! We all know people who have made a … Continue reading Do your bit →

Do you want to be richer? Do you want to have a better job? Do you want to have more children? Do you want to be more independent? What do you yearn for more in your life? Money? Family? Friends? Children? Good job? Bigger house? Better car? What do you want in your life and … Continue reading You have a yearning →

Are you a big PDA person? Do you get annoyed when other people use PDA? Do you use PDA? How do you feel about it? Should Christians do it? Should it be banned? Do you want to do it but your partner does not? PDA is a very controversial thing and many people agree with … Continue reading Personal Displays of Affection (PDA) →

Throughout life we have to learn life lessons and many of them start when we are young children. Going through life is never easy but then we go through hardships is harder and it can be tough! We have times in our life when things are hard and we don't really take it the right … Continue reading Life Lessons →

'Just keep swimming, just keep swimming!' We have all watched Finding Nemo and heard this of Dory. At the time we find it funny but we all have to keep on swimming and we all have to learn to keep on going. It is very important for us to keep on going, to keep on … Continue reading Just keep swimming →

Have you ever wanted to do something and it hasn't turned out the way you wanted it to? Have you ever thought you have done something and then have hit a brick wall? We all have times when we are thinking or needing to do something and we hit a brick wall, whether that be … Continue reading Don’t hit the wall →

Its that time again when it is the end of the summer holidays and all the children are back to school and the routine starts again. I have realised that there are two different types of parents out there, those who love it when their children go back to school and those who hate seeing … Continue reading Why I hate the end of summer →

A couple of days ago my sister got married to her fiancé. It may not have been that day that they had hoped for originally but at the end of the day they are now married and now able to start their married life together. It has been strange since their engagement because they had … Continue reading Big Sisters Wedding →

Have you thought about the things that are part or you put in your life that can destroy you and your relationships around you? When we are young we often talk about the things that we want in our life, the things that we would be happy with, the person we would be happy to … Continue reading These things destroy →

I can say that I am the worst at this! I struggle to get of bed on an everyday basis. This is not due to being lazy but because I don't find the motivation to get out of bed, I don't know the fully picture of my life, I feel I have no one I … Continue reading Get out of bed →

We have all made mistakes, we have all done something that we regret, we have all done something that has not been good for us or anyone else. There is no one in life (but One) who has not made a mistake, the biggest mistake that anyone in life can make is not getting up … Continue reading Overcoming mistakes →

Are you one of those people that jump into something and then take the consequences later or are you one of those people who plan carefully so nothing can go wrong? Do you want to do something and ride a fast horse after or are you someone who treads carefully? I am almost ashamed to … Continue reading Think about things →

Over the last few years I have been overwhelmed by the love and support that people have given me. There have been so many people that have stuck by my side, so many people that have helped me in my hour of need, so many people who have given me love, so many who have … Continue reading Love and support →

Do you ever wonder why things happen fast? Do you remember you first child's day at school? Do you remember when the years used to go so slowly? Do you remember when you were a kid? Do you remember when you had to go through so many different things to get to the place you … Continue reading How does it go so fast? →

How many times in the day do you take time for yourself? How many times in the day do you take time to breath? How many times in the day do you just take a second to see what is around you? How many times in the day do you take time to have a … Continue reading Take a second →

Are you a black and white person or a grey person? Do you see things as right or wrong or in between? Do you struggle with the 'maybes' of life? I am a black or white person and I don't add in the shades of grey, something is either really good or something is really … Continue reading Black and white →

Being born and being a human is one of the hardest things in life and throughout life it does not get easier. It is one of the hardest jobs in the world and everyone has to go through it. Life is not easy and there are hard things that we all have to go through … Continue reading Up and Downs →

To many people a blowout may be when a child has a really full diaper and it has got everywhere but for me it is totally different. Have you ever held something in? Have you wanted to talk but have not been able too? Have to tried to talk but silence comes out? Have you … Continue reading Don’t wait for a blowout →

Have you ever cried in the shower? Have you ever let the noise of the water cover you cries? Have you ever let the water take your tears away? We have all heard about singing in the shower but have you ever cried in the shower? Ever person has or will cry on the shower. … Continue reading Silent shower tears →

Loving someone takes time. Each party has to take their own time to know what they would like. Each person has to let love develop no matter the circumstances. Love is a very complicated thing and so it takes time. Every person in the world wants to be loved, we want to be wanted, we … Continue reading Give love time →

A lot of people have anxiety, a lot of people worry, a lot of people have depression but they are not the same. So many people think that anxiety and worrying are the same but they are not. Worrying can change day to day but anxiety is stuck in someone and takes a long time … Continue reading More than worrying →

Don't you just like spending time alone? Time when you can have 'you' time, time when the children are in bed, time when you can pamper yourself, time you can read a book, time when you can have a longed for bath, time when it is just you and no one else. No one can … Continue reading Alone Time →