Why do people lie? Why do people think that they are able to get away with lying through their teeth? Why do people do it when they know they are going to get caught out? There are several reasons as to why people lie and some can be quiet simple and others can be quiet … Continue reading Blog 415: Just tell the truth →

Have you ever lost a pet? It was about 8 years ago that I lost my fur baby and it was one the saddest day of my life! It was hard to loose my fur baby, I had, had him for about 10 years and he was my baby. I had him in my arms … Continue reading Blog 414: Missing my baby →

How often do you say thankful and how often are you thankful for the things and people that you have in your life? Thank you is just such a small word (check out another blog here) and sometimes we often don't say it or find it hard to say those two simple words! Why? Are … Continue reading Blog 413: Being Thankful →

Do you find it easy to forgive and forget or are you just one to pretend to forgive? There will be people in your life that you will find hard to forgive and there will be people in your life that you do not want to forgive but we need to and we must not … Continue reading Blog 412: Are you ready to forgive? →

How do you feel when someone asked you a personal question? Are you willing to open up or would you prefer to keep quiet and keep to yourself? In order to open up you need to be willing to trust other people and you need to know that the other person will love you no … Continue reading Blog 411: Open Up →

How often do you take that time to yourself? How often do you have that bath that you have always wanted? When was the last time you went out for coffee on your own? We always want people to apologise in order for us to move on but sometimes that is not possible, sometimes the … Continue reading Blog 410: Take time for yourself →

What is PTSD? Post-Traumatic stress disorder is something that is hard to talk about, something hard to diagnose and something hard to get over. It is something that can affect children but also adults and we seem to shy away from talking about it. PTSD is a real thing and being silent is not how … Continue reading Blog 409: Adult PTSD →

How thankful are you for the previous year? How are you feeling now that we are going into a new year? What plans do you have for this year? Are you grateful for all the things you have learnt in the past year? There are so many things that we can learn in a year … Continue reading Blog 408: New Year →

Most of us remember what happened last Christmas but what about the year before? Or even 5 years ago? What about 10 years ago? Surely not 20 years ago? Without a doubt this is a period in our life that we remember things that have gone on, we remember those people around us, we remember … Continue reading Blog 407: Christmas Memories →

When we think of a goat we think of the animal, there are farm ones, mountain ones, small ones, large ones and cute ones. However when I say G.O.A.T I don't mean these cute furry animals but I am talking about the greatest of all time. When I say about the greatest of all time … Continue reading Blog 406: G.O.A.T →

When we have Christmas what do you think about? The food? The presents? The family? The snow? The Christmas tree? The children? The meals out? The money spent? If someone was to say to you what do you think about when I say Christmas and then say Easter what would your answer be? We often … Continue reading Blog 405: Easter at Christmas →

Do you love Christmas or are you one of those people that dread that time of the year coming around? This is a time of year that should be joyful, we should be full of happiness, we should be full of awe but instead this time can be full of conflict for so many couples … Continue reading Blog 404: Troubles at Christmas →

Since we have all been small we have had our traditions, whether that is to do with holidays, birthdays or Christmas, we all like to have our traditions and make memories with our family and children. We are now at the beginning of Christmas season and if you listen carefully you can hear the whispers … Continue reading Blog 403: Our traditions →

How are you feeling about your marriage? Have you just started your married life? Being married brings so many things to the forefront of your mind, will you get on? How will you react in your first argument? Does the other person respect you? Do they compare you to an ex? Will they treat you … Continue reading Blog 402: Trusting in marriage →

Baby A on 2nd December 2022 at 5:33pm weighing in at 7lb 2oz you entered our lives and we couldn't be more excited. We are so thankful that you are finally here. We can't wait to see you grow up, we can't wait to see your personality come out, we can't wait to see what … Continue reading Blog 401: To our Nephew →

Today you are probably exhausted, today you are probably stuffed, today you are happy ad today is two days after Christmas. You may not want be wanting to talk to other people but you may be wanted to read these blogs and why not. Today is a very special day because I have just hit … Continue reading 400 blogs →

There are so many people across the world that live with anxiety, some are unable to go out, some are unable to meet with friends, some are unable to talk about issues, some are unable to be themselves and this is all because of anxiety. Anxiety is something that can destroy someones life and we … Continue reading Blog 399: Life with anxiety →

Do you fear of being judged? Do you fear going out because you feel that other people are judging you for being you? The fear of being judged is all in our head and something that we need to work out of being in our brain but believe me it is hard to do! Where … Continue reading Blog 398: Judgement fear →

Do you ever feel that you have been on your personal journey for such a long time and you feel like you are on your own? Do you feel like life is slogging along? Do you feel like you are in a desert just trying to get through life and on auto pilot? It is … Continue reading Blog 397: I’m in the desert →

Aren't there times in your life when you just want to go back to being a child? There are times when we look at our own children and want to do what they are doing or we remember those days in our childhood when we did similar things. There are certain times that I look … Continue reading Blog 396: A Kids life →

What time do you go to bed? Are you one of those people who falls asleep early in the evening and refuses to go to bed because its too early? When a man and women go to bed it seems to be two different things. Men go straight to bed and a women can take … Continue reading Blog 395: ‘Going to bed!’ →

Tomorrow is the 11/11 and we think about all those men and women who served in WW1, WW2. Did you know that in WW1 (1914-1918) alone 40 million men, women, children, civilians, military personnel died, in WW2 (1939-1945) 70–85 million men and women including those in the holocaust died and since then 77,676 people died in … Continue reading Blog 394: To those who Served →

For all those people out there when you got married you made a vow to your spouse that you would love, cherish and obey them through everything. However, when you have children it is a hard journey, there are things that need to be done, there are things to learn, there are things that need … Continue reading Blog 393: Support to your children →

How do you feel and sleep in the night, are you a calm sleeper, are you a deep sleeper, are you a snorer, are you a dreamer, are you up with children, are you a minimum sleeper? There are so many different kinds of sleepers and as we get older our sleep changes. There is … Continue reading Blog 392: Secrets of the night →

We all have that point in our lives when we find it hard to go on special date nights, we just don't have enough money. We want more money but we have to deal with the fact that we need to have date nights on a limited budget. It can be hard to think outside … Continue reading Blog 391: Date nights →

There are so many things in life that we look to for satisfaction, we want to look our best so we get appreciated by our friends, we want to have the up to date car so people stare at us down the street, we want to have the best job so people look up to … Continue reading Blog 390: Who is your saviour? →

'You have to love yourself.' How many times do we hear that in a day? We seem to want to tell others to love themselves but do you love yourself, not in a weird way but in a self loving way. We need to love ourselves through everything, through the hard times, through the easy … Continue reading Blog 389: Have self-love →

Do you find that life is pulling you down? Do you feel that God doesn't love you? Do you feel that you are at the end of your journey? Do you feel that you are no worthy? Do you feel that you are not comfortable with who you are? We often have so much baggage … Continue reading Blog 388: Wonderfully made →

When we get married we always think we are in a fairy tale and we know it, is going to be amazing. However, there are things that will work against us, there will be money problems, there will be family issues, there will be illness, there will be differences, there will be expectations that will … Continue reading Blog 387: Marriage Basics →

Don't we just love it in life when good things happen, when we can be with family, when we can be with friends, when we can be around those people that we love, when we can enjoy the good weather, when we have good periods in our life. I do often wonder though how much … Continue reading Blog 386: Thankful for the good times →

How often do we want to give up in life? How often do bad things happen and you just want to give up and leave the storm? We all have times when life is hard and we don't want to go through the storm. We all have times when we cannot do anything else but … Continue reading Blog 385: Walking through the storm →

When we first started dating there was a lot of people who said that we would not last, I tried and succeeded at proving them wrong. It has been known that throughout dating so many people go their own ways because there relationship is unable to work and they just are not compatible. It is … Continue reading Blog 384: Pre-marriage tips →

Did you know that children learn from looking and copying? Did you know that children will watch and learn everything that you do from your action, to your language to how you treat other people. When you think about it, it can be quite scary that children will learn from everything that you do. When … Continue reading Blog 383: Example to Children →

The last time I wrote about being single I was single but now I am a married lady, there are still loads of people who are single and want to be loved and I know your pain! We all know what being single is like, we have been around friends who are getting married, we … Continue reading Blog 382: Be happy single →

As a young women I often find it hard to believe in myself, I find it hard to let other people love me, I find it hard to know that God loves me. To be honest I find it really hard to do and feel a lot of things and because of that life is … Continue reading Blog 381: What is a godly woman →

Over the years I have found it very hard to trust other people. I have been hurt so many times that now I find it hard to fully trust other people even those people who are close to me, even family! I know trusting someone is a very important thing in life and it is … Continue reading Blog 380: Trust God →

We all suffer pain in our lives, it can vary from pain in our heart to our body to our actions. There are so many things in life that can cause us pain, we have pain from loosing someone, we have pain when we hurt our self, we have pain when we loose a job, … Continue reading Blog 379: Moving on from pain →

11:00 am today at Westminster Abbey we say goodbye to the longest serving monarch, we say goodbye to the Queen, we say goodbye to a mother of 4, grandmother of 8 ad great-grandmother of 12. We say goodbye to someone who has been there through the war, through Prime Ministers, through Presidents, through the thick … Continue reading Blog 378: Thank you Ma’am →

For most people getting married is something that they have wanted for most of their lives, I know so many people, mostly women, and they have dreamed about this time, they have thought about the colours, they have thought about their dresses and when this day comes the dream has become a reality. Many people … Continue reading Blog 377: Marathon of Marriage →

When you are feeling sad where do you go? What do you do to try and feel better? Where do you go when you have lost your mojo? Who do you turn to when you feel sad? How often do you feel sad? Do you have a certain thing to do when you feel bad? … Continue reading Blog 376: Where is your happy Place? →

Our Heavenly Father Today we come to you emotional and with heavy hearts due to the passing of Her Majesty the Queen a couple of days ago. We thank you for her 96 years of life and over 70 years of service to her people in this nation and across the world, we thank you … Continue reading Blog 375: Prayer for the United Kingdom →

Thursday 8th September 2022. ''The Queen died peacefully at Balmoral this afternoon. The King and the Queen Consort will remain at Balmoral this evening and will return to London tomorrow.'' 21st April 1926 - 8th September 2022. Elizabeth Alexandra Mary, Queen Elizabeth the second, first daughter to the late King George VI and Queen Elizabeth, … Continue reading Blog 374: Her Majesty →

How often do we complain? Do you get through a day without moaning? We often complain and it can be because of the smallest things. There are many situations in life when we complain and often we complain so much that people 'zone out' and they don't listen to the points we are making. We … Continue reading Blog 373: Over complaining →

So it is that time of year when the children are going back to school, it is time to put the beach towels away, it is time to put the suitcases away, it is time to travel, it is time to go shopping, it is time to get the uniforms out, it is time to … Continue reading Blog 372: Another School Year →

Soon it will be that time when we have to let your children go to school. It may be your last child going to school for their first day or it may be your eldest going to high school for the first time, either way you have to let them go and learn about the … Continue reading Blog 371: Letting Go →

We go through so many times in life when things are hard, there are so many things that take our attention, there are so many things that take our energy, there are so many things that make us feel romantic and we all want to have those moments. There are many times where the 'spark' … Continue reading Blog 370: Keeping the spark alive →

How often do you look at other families and think they have the perfect life? We often look at other people and think that their lives are perfect and their families are just the way they want it. In reality a lot happens behind closed doors that you do not see and hear. There are … Continue reading Blog 369: God, Family, Society →

In life no matter whether we are men or women we need people who we can rely on, those we can speak to, those we can count upon, those we can call at any point of the day or night. We all need friends, it is perfectly normal to want to have friends around us … Continue reading Blog 368: My girlfriends →

I know very few people in this world that I would actually put my life down for them, sorry! How far would you go to protect someone and to keep them safe and alive? This is a very big question for anyone in their lives let alone those people who are married or who have … Continue reading Blog 367: I died for you →

Don't we all love a good love story, a good dating story, to see how people met, to see what they have been doing, to see where they have been going on dates. Don't we get excited when we find out that our friends are dating and we always want to know more about how … Continue reading Blog 366: End of dating →

We all want to be in charge, we all want to tell others what to do, we all want to lead our families but there should only be one person who 'wears the trousers' in your relationship and that should be the man. It is not that men are more capable or more wise but … Continue reading Blog 365: Let your man lead →

Don't you look around and think how much life has changed since you were a child, how much technology there now is, how many children spend hours in their bedroom, how children are not allowed outside on their own? Since all of our childhood life has changed and things have become totally different to what … Continue reading Blog 364: Pray for your children →

There are certain times of the year when we love someone more than we did the day before. We don't mean to but it just happens such as their birthday, Christmas, anniversary's, valentines day etc. Our hearts seem to be filled with more love on these days than we can imagine but sometimes we need … Continue reading Blog 363: Love everyday →

Do you find it hard to communicate? To talk about your feelings? To talk about your emotions? A lot of us find it hard to communicate with one another and we find it hard to really talk about how we are feeling. There are a lot of people who will not talk about anything and … Continue reading Blog 362: Keep communicating →

No matter what you think we all need space, we all need space to think, we all need space to get our thoughts together, we all need space to organise, we all need space to sleep, we all need space to be ourselves. However, we should not have loads of space that we become isolated … Continue reading Blog 361: Just give me space →

We all like to be romantic, we all like to go on amazing dates, we all like to be with the people that we love, we all like to be with out spouse, we all like a romantic movie but sometimes the romance can go in our relationship. Sometimes we need to put the spark … Continue reading Blog 360: Stay romantic →

There are so many things that are said about tongues, they can say the smallest words but pierce the strongest heart. It may be one of the smallest muscles in our body but we have to be careful about how we use it and what we say with it. The smallest thing can destroy a … Continue reading Blog 359: Small tongue, hurtful words →

We all watch movies where we see the groom bottle it and get cold feet just before he gets to the altar. He gets cold feet. There are other examples of life when there are cold feet too, it can be winter, it can be a job interview, it can be scared of having a … Continue reading Blog 358: Cold Feet →

I realise that there are many people from many different countries have been reading these blogs who do not really know me. I thought it was time for you to get to know me as I have now been blogging for almost 5 years. I have looked up some quick fire questions and here are … Continue reading Blog 357: Get to know me →

How often do you go out and serve other people? It is hard to think about other people when we have families to deal with, we have jobs to go to, we have children to look after, we have so many things and people in our life to split our time in between and it … Continue reading Blog 356: Serve not to be served →

We all know at the beginning of the earth there was one women and one man, Adam and Eve, made in the image of God, married to each other and the beginning of the human race. God commanded these two people to be fruitful and multiply-hence have children and fill the earth with more children. … Continue reading Blog 355: One man and one woman →

We all know the three lettered word: s.e.x but do we know what that really means? Did you wait? When are you going to have children? Have you 'done' it? Have you gone as far as you can without going all the way? God will forgive you if you do do 'it.' Have you talked … Continue reading Blog 354: Sex in marriage only →

Everywhere we look people are on their smartphones, people sit down for a date but end up being on their phones, people go our for a drive but one or other go on their phones, people go out for a walk but they are soon on their phones, people seem to have lost the romantic … Continue reading Blog 353: No to Hollywood romance →

No matter what way we look at it every man needs and women and every women needs a man. With all the things going on in the world it is important that we rely on each other. There are many times in our life that we are upset by some of the things that our … Continue reading Blog 352: Every man needs a women →

Every man and women is different, we were created different, we have different emotions, we have different attributes, we are different and we cannot be the other gender. We were created as a man and a female whether you like it or not. Every person I know is amazing, my mum is amazing, my dad … Continue reading Blog 351: My husband is the best →

Every person you meet, every person you date there will be some intimacy, there will be an attraction that will be had. Whether that be in a family situation or in a relationship we will have some sort of intimacy. We will talk to our family about the things that no one else knows, we … Continue reading Blog 350: Intimacy differences →

We have just celebrated fathers day and it is special to celebrate this day as being a daughter. We have a different relationship to most people, your father is the one who you look up to, the one who we take for an example, the one who helps us to see what our future husband … Continue reading Blog 349: Daddy and Daughter →

Daniel Singarajah, my husband, my soulmate, my best friend. I am so grateful and blessed to have you as my husband and someone that I am able to live with for the rest of my life. I am so blessed that I am able to call you mine, that we are able to have a … Continue reading Blog 347: Happy 30th my love →

Today is the day we celebrate my husbands birthday, so this blog is how I feel about Him and how much I love Him. 30 years ago on this day Daniel was born to second time parents and changed their lives and everyone around him. They didn't know how much joy he would bring to … Continue reading Blog 348: To my Husband →

In two days time is my husbands 30th birthday! My husband, can you believe it? Darling this blog is for you. I don't know how to tell you this but you are amazing. You have helped me so much in the last year, you have been such a wonderful husband, you have been such a … Continue reading Blog 346: My Hubby →

In life it is hard to be clear about what you want in life, how to say what you want and how to do the things that you want. It is hard to be clear with people around us especially in our relationship and when it may upset other people. Sometimes it is not easy … Continue reading Blog 345: Be Clear →

Some people get married and some people stay single but the important thing us that every life is a gift from God. Every relationship, every person, every child, every adult has been given a life that has been given by God and we should be blessed with the life that we are able to live. … Continue reading Blog 344: God’s gift of marriage →

In life we get tired, we get exhausted, we get done with different things that happen in life and it can be hard. There are a lot of things in life that 'kills' us, we have work to do, we have jobs to attend, we have family to look after, we have children to care … Continue reading Blog 343: Life Killers →

How often do you tease your family? your partner? your friends? your children? We all love to tease other people and to make them laugh. It is so good to tease each other but there is a line that should not be crossed whether at home in private or out. We need to be careful … Continue reading Blog 342: Limited Teasing →

Can you imagine if we were all the same? Life would be so boring, we would all have the same hair, the same coloured hair, the same personalities, the same hobbies, the same ideas, the same development, the same physical body, we would live in a very boring world with very boring people because we … Continue reading Blog 341: We are different →

A relationship is said to be about giving half and accepting half but newsflash sadly or not so sadly it is not! Every relationship should be 70% to 30%. We should give 100% in our relationship but in reality with life going on we will only give some of that and we should give 70% … Continue reading Blog 340: 70-30 →

It is so sad that this society that we live in is full of so many split families. It is so sad that so many families don't have their fathers around, it is so sad that so many families don't have their mothers around, it is so sad that so many people are split from … Continue reading Blog 339: Split Families →

I love my husband, I really do but does my actions always show it? I am ashamed to say this but I think not! Sometimes I don't listen to him, I annoy him, I distrust him, I aggravate him, I stress him out, I don't clean up after myself, I am tired, I am grumpy, … Continue reading Blog 338: Respecting my husband →

I do not need to go into the genetically side of things as this is obvious but men are different from women, men learn differently, they think differently, they act differently, they have different emotions, they speak differently, they have different physical things, their body is built differently. Men and women are different and we … Continue reading Blog 337: Mens biggest temptation →

We all know that laughter is the best medicine! We know that laughter can help with stress, it can help with anxiety, it can help with hurt, it can help in so many ways and we should not take it for guarantee. It is something that has been given to us and we can use … Continue reading Blog 336: Laughter through life →

There are so many temptations in life that it is hard to stay faithful to anyone and anything, we want to have a better job so we go and look for a better one, we want to have a better marriage so we go and look for someone else, we want to have better friends … Continue reading Blog 335: Stay faithful →

No matter how we think about it every women needs a man in their lives. Every daughter needs their father in their life, every lady needs someone that they can turn to who is not a female. When we are children we need our dads there to protect us and to look after us, as … Continue reading Blog 334: Women need a man →

It started of with my bridesmaid from USA, not being able to fly, then our family from around the world not being able to come, our honeymoon was then cancelled, the reception venue then cancelled on us, the date had to be changed, the government telling all over 70s that they had to self-isolate, churches … Continue reading Blog 333: Our wedding not going to plan →

One year ago today at 11:46pm weighing in at 6lb 2oz our beautiful niece was born and it was one of the best days of my life. I had always wanted to be an aunty and the day had now come and it came. What an amazing time it was and what a wonderful toddler … Continue reading Blog 332: Our Princess Niece →

We all share the same spaces, the bus, the train, the station, the living room, on social media, reading this blog, sitting on the sofa, eating breakfast, getting the bins in, reading the paper, getting some milk, heading to the shops. Wherever we are in the world we all seem to have the same routine … Continue reading Blog 331: You have a choice →

Tomorrow is Good Friday, a day of the year which is sombre and painful so why do we call it 'good?' It is a day of betray, of pain, of death, of sin, of suffering, of conviction, of flogging, of abuse, of soldiers, of mocking, of Jesus. Every year we have the same day and … Continue reading Blog 330: Good Friday →

Having your relationship and marriage private and having some privacy are totally different things. It is important to have privacy in your marriage, to keep things to yourself, to keep things between you and your partner but to keep it private is another thing. Talking about your relationship details and talking about your relationship are … Continue reading Blog 329: Private and Privacy →

One more episode, just a bit of chocolate, just a drink, another coffee, another pillow won't hurt, just in case, that box of cereal, sleep in a bit more, just another card, one more purchase, just one night, just a coffee break, just one visit, there are so many temptations in life, so many things … Continue reading Blog 328: Don’t be tempted →

Two years ago yesterday we had planned to have our wedding day with family and friends around to watch us get married. I now know that this would not happen but this is how I felt on my wedding day 3 month, 2 days and 2 hours later. I woke up not knowing what the … Continue reading Blog 327: Wedding anniversary →

Before I was married I was asked so many times whether or not I would include obey in my vows and of course it was a no brainier for me. Of course I would love, cherish and obey my husband! I want people to know that I will always love, cherish and obey my husband … Continue reading Blog 326: Cherish, Love and Obey →

Everybody in their lives need love, whether that is from our parents, from our guardians or from our spouse, we all need love. Love is a great and beautiful thing but it can be imperfect and it can be hard. We do so many things for our loved ones but we can forget the little … Continue reading Blog 325: What is Love →

In three days time we will be celebrating mothers day and I am so proud to have two mums to my name. I have an awesome mother and an incredible mother-in-law and I am so blessed to have both of them in my life. I am so grateful and bless to have both these wonderful … Continue reading Blog 324: To our Mums →

'please send rain,' 'please let me have a parking space,' 'please make this traffic move,' 'please make sure the trains are running.' We are all guilty of doing a quick, short, snappy prayer but do we actually mean it? Do you know who you are praying to? DO you realise that there is a God … Continue reading Blog 323:Keep praying →

We all think that as we start a new year it is important for us to have new year resolutions however it is important all through life to be able to change and have the chance to change because life will change and we need to be ready to change with it. We all have … Continue reading Blog 322: Hopes to change? →

Have you ever walked out of you house when you have been annoyed? There are many times when you want to give up with things, you want to just walk out and leave things as they are, you want to move on, you think things are better with someone else or somewhere else. You think … Continue reading Blog 321: Don’t give up →

We all want to be loved, we all want to have a partner, we all want to have a life, we all want to to feel loved, we all want to do things that we are not able to do, we all want to be able to have our cake and eat it. However, we … Continue reading Blog 320: You can’t have both →

Our Loving Heavenly Father, What a mess we are in currently, what a world we live in, what leaders we have, what war is going on. Lord we pray for the people of this world who are going through wars and who are going through battles. Most of all Lord we pray for the people … Continue reading Blog 319: Prayer for Ukraine →

In life we all experience change, from being at home to starting school, to starting big school, to going to college, to moving out to go to university, to having a new job, to a new relationship, to getting married, to a new baby being born, to someone close passing away, to changing jobs. In … Continue reading Blog 318: Times are changing →

This last week we have watched on the TV, read in the newspapers and looked on social media as Russia has invaded Ukraine, Putin has put his army into a country that is not his, Putin has sent missiles over into Ukraine, people have been killed, children have had to be evacuated, families have been … Continue reading Blog 317: I stand with you →

There are times in our life when we feel that we are slaves to something. We have all asked the question, 'what did your last slave die off?' It is a question that is asked throughout life to almost everyone. This may be our work, our children, social media, house chores, our family. We all … Continue reading Blog 316: You are not a slave →