We often find it hard to ask for help, we find it hard to reach out to other people, we find it hard to know that we need help and we need to ask for it, it won’t just be given to us if we do not ask for it. Asking for help can be hard and I am fully aware of it, I know this personally, we do not want to be a burden to other people and so we do not ask for help which can be harmful to ourselves. Personally it can be hard to ask for help, I never liked to ask for help as I feel weak and I feel that I am being a burden to those people around me even though I am not. However, sometimes I am not able to see over that. I fear asking for help from other people and my family that I am taking advantage of them and I feel bad that they have to help me out as well as them keeping up with their needs and their own families.
When I ask for help I am scared that people think I am weak, that I cannot help myself, that I am taking advantage of other people, that I am not able to cope on my own, that I am negative, it is hard to reach out for help when I have all these negative thoughts in my head and it does not only affect me but it affects those people around me. I try and close of other people when I feel this way and not ask for help but it is a hard cycle because then I feel bad about myself and then I can’t reach out for help and the cycle continues. It is hard and I really do feel sorry for those people who are not able to ask for help, I am thankful for those people who reach out to me and who give me the help that I need even when I do not ask for it.
My biggest thing about asking for help is that I feel like a failure, I want to be able to ask for help but I don’t want to look like a failure. I don’t want people to judge me because I need help and I can’t ask for it. I have this problem that I think people know how I am feeling and get annoyed when they do not get it. The main thing is that if I asked for help and talked about my feelings then I would feel better but I feel embarrassed about asking as it involves other people and what they are doing in their life. I don’t know what is going on in their lives and so I am afraid to ask for help-I would much rather keep myself to myself. It can also be hard for me to ask for help because I am a control-freak and asking for help means that I am not fully in control and I do not know what to do. In asking for help I am almost letting someone else be in control and this is hard for me.
Asking for help is not a bad thing to do and the more we ask the more we will get used to it. It does require patience, it does require strength to be able to ask for help but the more you do it the less painful it will be. There are so many times when we find it hard to ask for help because people don’t have time and they have other things to do in their lives and it can be hard for them to make room for us in their lives. There will be times when others are not able to help and it can be hard to feel that rejection, it can be hard to ask for help again once we have been rejected. We are humans that want to be liked and want to be loved and so when we do have that rejection it can be hard to ask that same person for help again. We need to get out of our bubble and we need to ask for help as well as being there for people who ask for help too!
As much as it is hard for us to ask humans for help because we are all sinful and we will not be able to be there for the people that need us. However, God is there for us, He is not too busy for us to call for help, He is not going to judge us when we need help, He will be there no matter what we are going through. When no one else is there God will be there and we can rely on Him more than anything else.
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