For all those people out there when you got married you made a vow to your spouse that you would love, cherish and obey them through everything. However, when you have children it is a hard journey, there are things that need to be done, there are things to learn, there are things that need to be communicated and it can be hard. When you got married not only were you making those vows to your spouse to be but you were also making a vow to your children who were to come. When you have children they will look up to you and copy everything that you do without even realising it. They will take their security from you, their love from you and their understanding for you and it is important that we give them that through the vows that we have spoken to our spouses.
No matter how old I get I always like a hug from my mum and I want to be there for my children when I have them. I want to be there for them, I want to be there when they need a hug, I want to be there when they are scared of the dark, I want to be there when they are struggling, I want to be there when they fail, I want to be there when they are out and about, I want to be there when they come home late, I want to be there when they get up early, I want to be there when they are sick, I want to be there when they take their first steps, I want to be there when they are older and getting into a relationships themselves, I want to be there through the highs and lows. I know that through life I want to support my children through everything just like my parents did for me.
It is so important to support your children through everything. My Mum once said to me, ‘I will always love you but not always like you!’ That is so true! We may not always like our children, their choices but we will always love them. No matter whether your children are born from you or are adopted you will always love them. You will always be there for your child and if you are not then you will be missing out on some awesome things that your children will do. No matter how old our children will be they will always need our support and each child will need it differently. Some of your children will need more emotional support, more physical support and more mental support. Each child is different and it is important that you support each child through everything.
No matter how you feel in the evening ask your child if they want to talk or get things of their chest. They may not use the opportunity all the time but it will show them that you are ready to talk and willing to listen to them. To begin with it will be hard because they will probably use it not to go to sleep but it is important to let them know that you are willing to talk about anything and everything. Whatever, you are going through to show true love to your children you need to let them know that you are always there, you are ready to listen and they can talk to you whenever they need to. Know that the way you can show love to your children is loving your spouse and being secure in the relationship that you are in. We need to have a marriage that can show our children how God looks at us.
No matter what we are going through we can come to God, we can cry out to Him, we can talk to Him, we can reach out to Him, we can tell Him all the things that we are struggling with, the things that are hard on on us and He does not judge us. That is the way we need to treat our children, no matter what they go through in life not only do we need to support them we need to want to support them. As God is there for us we need to want to be there for our children through everything that we and they go through. We need to know that each day that passes our children are growing up and older and sometimes it is hard to adapt to how our children are growing up but in that time we need to let them know that we are there for them. God is there for us through everything and we need to be there through everything for our children too.