Blog 295: Its Lonely

Its lonely

Are you grateful for those people around you during this festive season? Would you rather be on your own or with people that you love and who love you? Do you look forward to this season or do you find it hard and lonely? Many people across the world feel lonely at this time of year, people are heading out for meals, others are gathering with friends and others are seeing their families and it can be quite hard not to feel lonely and isolated. A lot of people, especially children, are excited about this time of the year but other are overcome with loneliness and sadness. It is actually very common and a lot of people would say they are lonely at this time of year. Isn’t that sad with all the people in the world people are still lonely and have no one to turn to or go to at Christmas?

There are many reasons as to why we may feel lonely, we may have lost a dear person near to us, we may be going through a divorce, we may have children that do not live near us, we may not have family, we may live alone, we may have dementia so don’t understand what is going on, we may be estranged from family, we may have anxiety issues, we may feel pressure from society. All these things will add up to us being lonely and it can and will be hard to get through this time but we can do it and you need to surround yourself with people who understand and who know what you have gone through. Being lonely is hard and it can effect our mental health and Christmas can make this a bigger problem. It can be hard to manage being lonely at this time.

It is important to take time for yourself all the time let alone at this time of year, if you feel overwhelmed then take a walk, read a book and enjoy a hobby. Your mindset can and will change if you put yourself first and don’t fret about the festive season and what everyone else is doing. It is important to have a good Christmas but also to be able to look after yourself and keep yourself calm. This is a time when you are bound to feel lonely and bound to feel sad because of it but there will be times in the year when it will all feel better and it will take time to heal over time. Loneliness is hard on all people and it will be better as time goes on. However, there will be times when you miss your family and friends and that is okay, it is normal and life will have its ups and downs.

There will be days when you will get more emotional than others and there will be days when you feel more lonely than others and that is going to happen. Thinking about it and mulling over it won’t change your situation but instead talking about how your feeling to those people around you will make you feel better. Believe me at first it will be hard but you will get used to it and the more you tell people the more they can support you. This season will be hard for you but each day brings different things and different experiences so grasp them with two hands and be ready to make more memories with those people who you have in your life and not those people who have walked away from you. If they have walked away then that is their loss, but if you have walked away from them then maybe it is time to reach out. Maybe it is time to put the past in the past and look forward to the future and how you can mend a broken relationship.

We all have things that we need to work on and we all have things that have happened that we regret but we need to talk about them to someone. It may be too hard to talk to a person about it but you can always talk to God and you can always tell Him how you are feeling. He knows how you are feeling, He knows that you are lonely, He knows that you find this time of year hard and it takes effort to get through it but He will help you and He will keep you close to Him. All you have to do is to trust in Him and His love for you.

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